In the time of coronavirus, how can I help ?
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Now more than ever, the support of family, friends, colleagues and the community is important for victims of intimate partner violence (IPV) and their children.
Creating a sense of community and connection all around us
IPV is very common and you come across several victims during a walk or while shopping. Do not underestimate the power of a simple smile or a few nice words exchanged at the grocery store, pharmacy or on the sidewalk. It's time to create new kinds of connections with the people around us... always staying 2 meters apart of course!
Installing a safety net around victims of IPV
Regular contact with those who are known to be victims of IPV prevents them from being completely isolated in their situation. Of course, it is important to be aware that the abuser may be close by. Exchanges have to be kept on "light" topics unless the person is alone. The same is true for text messages or e-mails, which may be intercepted by the abuser. If you are able to speak with the victim safely, it may be a good idea to agree on a code that could be conveyed easily if the victim needs you to notify emergency services. Chose a code that seems «innocent», such as talking about a sudden urge for sweets «I would give anything for ice cream right now...», about a shared memory «Do you remember when we went to Quebec city?» or about someone in particular «I miss grandma so much today».
Share information about the availability of resources
Community resources specializing in the support of victims of intimate partner violence (SOS violence conjugale and our colleagues in shelters throughout Quebec and other external resources) are currently working hard to meet the needs of victims and their families. We are available 24 hours a day, every day. Knowing that there is help, that people are concerned about them and that they can call on us gives victims of IPV a dose of hope and power. Share our publications, make your concern visible, and you will have done a lot.
Support your local IPV resources
Resources are currently in a race against the clock to meet the needs of victims and children already housed in shelters (and in confinement), as well as those of victims who may need support and shelter in the short term. Keep a watch out for calls for help from these resources: fundraising, volunteering, material donations, etc. Every little bit can make a huge difference.
Bien que la violence conjugale touche majoritairement des femmes, elle peut aussi toucher les hommes et les personnes issues de la diversité sexuelle et de genre. Les services de SOS violence conjugale sont offerts à toutes les personnes touchées par la problématique.