Testimonials 102

We have been separated for 5 years, but I am still being told that I am an incompetent mother, that I have no ambition, that I am a lost cause. He blames me for the separation despite the fact that he denigrated me throughout the relationship.
  • Woman
  • 41 years old
  • Emotional violence, Post-separation violence
We posted the SOS-INFOs on the bulletin board of the shelter. Several women read them and asked for copies. They find them clear and relevant because they recognize their experiences. -Intervener at the shelter for women victims of intimate partner violence.
I am constantly preoccupied with how he may react. I have to hide certain parts of my life from him so that I don't disappoint him (for example, if I smoke a cigarette with friends, even though I «officially» quit three years ago when he gave me an ultimatum). When I do something that he doesn't like, I am the worst person in the world, selfish, a liar, self-centered, etc.
  • Man
  • 39 years old
  • Psychological violence, Emotional violence
He hit me in the stomach, really hard, when I was a few weeks pregnant. He said afterwards that it would be my fault if I lost the baby.
  • Woman
  • 23 years old
  • Emotional violence, Physical violence
When I'm at work, my husband calls and texts me constantly. If I don't answer, he insists and texts repeatedly, every 3 seconds. It's difficult when I'm with clients, with colleagues or with my boss. I've already been reprimanded for this. It's really stressful for me.
  • Woman
  • 42 years old
  • Technological violence, Bullying
He forged my signature many times, on contracts, personal loan applications, and to try to sell the house without my knowledge.
  • Woman
  • 57 years old
  • Economic violence
He constantly questioned my intelligence, my memory and my mental health: «I never said that! You're making up stories!» «Seriously, you should go to the doctor, you're not right in the head!» «Look how you're reacting!» «You're always mixing things up, you must be starting to get Alzheimer's...», «You don't even remember what you told me! You're so dumb!». Woman 54 years old "
  • Woman
  • 54 years old
  • Psychological violence
Thanks to the «It's not violent» website, I was able to increase my student's awareness of the subtle violence found in intimate partner violence, which is often banalized and ignored. My students really liked a first workshop in class and I then organized thematic lunchtime meetings for the other four vignettes.
After acts of physical violence, he compared my emotions to his own to minimize them: «You were physically hurt, but I was psychologically wounded... I want to die». He acted like a fragile and destroyed child, who blamed himself to death. He was able to get me to reassure him, even though I was the one who had just suffered his blows. Woman 35 years old"
  • Woman
  • 35 years old
  • Psychological violence, Emotional violence
My daughter was experiencing a lot of emotional abuse from her partner. Every time I wanted to talk to her about it, she would shut me out or change the subject. It made me very angry because I could clearly see the hold he had on her. Plus, she wouldn't call me or if we talked, it would only last a few minutes. She rarely came to see me, and I missed her and my grandson. I felt helpless. I didn't know what to do anymore. I was so worried. I saw a poster about SOS violence conjugale at the CLSC and I took the chance to call them. I received support from the worker. She put me in contact with a counsellor, with whom I was able to talk about the situation and she helped me a lot.
  • Woman
  • 68 years old
  • Psychological violence, Isolation
I could never be right about anything, because my wife claimed to have a «photographic» memory of past events, and therefore a perfect vision of events.
  • Woman
  • 34 years old
  • Psychological violence
A few weeks after I gave him an ultimatum (leaving him unless he changed), he proposed to me on my best friend's wedding day, in front of all our friends, using the «momentum» of that day so that I had no choice but to say yes... or to break up with him on the spot and very publicly. I've never felt so stressed out in my life. I did say yes... I didn't see how I could say no in that context. I was judged by my friends after that... They just didn't understand that the best way to isolate me was to do exactly this.
  • Woman
  • 28 years old
  • Psychological violence, Isolation
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